The Confidence Reset with Jules Von Hep

There's no shortage of advice on how to glow. New skincare routines, morning rituals, productivity hacks, and wellness trends all promise to help us feel happier, healthier, and more confident. But according to wellness advocate and presenter Jules Von Hep, true confidence has very little to do with perfection. It comes from the relationship you have with yourself.

Ahead of his inspiring workshop at 1 Hotel Mayfair, we sat down with Jules to talk about cultivating an inner glow, embracing authenticity, and noticing the everyday "glimmers" that help us reconnect with ourselves. From reframing the Sunday scaries to creating environments that calm the nervous system, he shares the simple practices that have shaped his own journey and why true confidence isn't about becoming someone else, but learning to stop abandoning yourself.

Finding Your Inner Glow with Jules Von Hep

Summer has a way of making us feel more visible, for better or worse. What does “inner glow” mean to you, and how can people cultivate it beyond skincare or appearance?

To me, inner glow is the energy you give off when you feel connected to yourself. There are multiple tutorials in how to glow on the outside, so we often focus our attention on that. But the true glow comes from within.

The inner glow isn’t about being the loudest person in the room, looking perfect or feeling confident every second of every day. It’s about knowing who you are beneath all the noise and the role you play day to day. The true you.

Summer can make us feel incredibly exposed. Suddenly, there are fewer clothes, more photographs and a sense that everybody else is effortlessly living their best life. But confidence and high vibing inner frequency doesn’t form from shrinking, changing or punishing yourself into becoming more acceptable. It grows when you stop treating yourself like a problem that needs to be fixed.

You cultivate inner glow through the things nobody necessarily sees: the way you speak to yourself, the boundaries you set, the people you surround yourself with and the promises you keep to yourself. Skincare can make you shine, but self-worth is what makes you glow.

Your workshop explores confidence, intuition, and life’s everyday “glimmers.” What’s one simple practice anyone can start this week that has the biggest impact on how they show up for themselves?

Start collecting glimmers.

A glimmer is a tiny moment that brings you back to yourself, the opposite of a trigger. A glimmer is a moment that when you truly tune into it, has the power to give gratitude, a sense of presence, humour and happiness all in one hit. Glimmers have the ability to make us feel truly alive, but so many people don’t tune into them, letting them slip by. It might be your favourite song playing unexpectedly, a cookie on the side of your coffee for no reason, seeing a flower growing somewhere it shouldn’t, or running into an old friend you haven’t seen in ages. 

The more you recognize them, the more present you become and presence is where intuition gets louder. Take photos of your glimmers and save them in a special album on your phone!

So many people spend Mondays feeling overwhelmed. If you could help guests replace one habit or mindset before the week begins, what would it be?

I would replace punishment with nourishment.
So many of us begin the week with an internal list of everything we need to correct: eat better, work harder, be more productive, exercise more, sort our entire lives out by lunchtime. We wake up on Monday already feeling behind.
Instead, I encourage people to ask: What do I need in order to feel supported this week?

That question creates a completely different energy. It might mean moving your body because it makes you feel alive, not because you dislike it or protecting an evening, preparing something nourishing or deciding that one important task is enough.

Monday has a bad rep, the Sunday scaries don’t help. Monday is a day of powerful bounty and wonder, not sadness or regret.

You’ve built a career encouraging people to embrace themselves authentically. Was there a moment in your own journey that completely changed the way you viewed confidence?

My understanding of confidence changed through my years as a spray tanner which led me onto a career as a global brand founder and beauty expert.

I worked with thousands of bodies, from celebrities preparing for red carpets to people getting ready for holidays, weddings or simply people wanting to feel good. Almost everybody would begin by pointing out what they disliked about themselves. They would apologise for their stomach, their legs, their scars or the way their body had changed.

Yet I never saw the flaws they were describing. I saw people. I saw the stories their bodies carried.
It made me realise how distorted our relationship with ourselves can become. We speak to ourselves in ways we would never speak to somebody standing in front of us.

I was also bullied growing up, and for a long time I believed confidence meant creating a version of myself that nobody could hurt. But real confidence isn’t armour. It’s not pretending that nothing affects you. It’s knowing that you are worthy even when you feel vulnerable, uncertain or different.
Confidence, for me, became less about being fearless and more about refusing to abandon myself.

1 Hotel Mayfair was designed as a place to slow down and reconnect with nature, even in the heart of London. How does the environment you’re in influence your mindset, and what makes a space feel restorative to you?

Our environments are constantly communicating with our nervous systems, whether we realize it or not. Light, texture, scent, sound and nature can all affect the way we feel and the pace at which we move.

I spend so much of my life travelling, speaking, creating and being around people, so restorative spaces are incredibly important to me. I’m drawn to natural materials, greenery, warm light and anything that reminds me of the earth. A space doesn’t need to be completely silent, but it should allow you to hear yourself again. I’m a big fan of any space that makes me feel like I have escaped, or that I’m hidden.

Nature has a wonderful way of reminding us that everything happens in cycles and that we don’t live on the earth, we are part of the earth. Nothing blooms constantly. There are seasons for growth, shedding, resting and beginning again. Bringing those elements into the heart of a city creates permission to soften.

For me, a restorative space is one where my shoulders drop without being told to. It’s somewhere that asks nothing from me and allows me to return to myself.